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Aug. 11th, 2007

My Birthday Diary - Part 4 (Surprises)

Hello, Friends!

"It ain't over 'til it's over" seems to be the theme of my new natal year. My birthday was on the 24th of July. It's now the 9th of August. Two nights ago, what was supposed to be just a casual dinner at a friend's place turned festive.

It was at Ricks's spacious apartment on Robinson Road. He gathered a few of our common friends together with a promise of serving Filipino dishes. I arrived late. Everyone was already settled. Monica, Patrick, Billy. Hugs, kisses and laughs all around. Having just arrived from overseas, Rick hands me a belated birthday present-- a beautiful bottle containing vanilla oil from Italy.

Rick's helper cooked adobo, but using lamb instead of pork or chicken. The pinakbet was similarly westernized. The succulent veggies were artfully laid on a dish, drained of the salty brown stew. Everything was delicious.

After dinner, Patrick emerged from the pantry with a chocolate cake. Everyone sang "Happy Birthday," afterwhich *I* was egged on to sing a song. None of my friends who were present that night has heard me sing before-- few of my friends have actually taken the trouble to come see my show. Bah. So I obliged their request, picking the super-easy Nat King Cole standard, "Unforgettable."

We still had plenty to catch up about, but we broke the party at midnight. Rick had to get up at 5AM for a training session at the gym.

***


Chris and I dropped by Volume last night to say hello to our good friend, Joseph. We knew Joseph would be busy with New Arrival Wednesdays, Volume's midweek Happy Hour for the out-of-towners and the boys who want to play with them. So Chris and I planned to just stay for one drink and then head for home.

Joseph surprised us, however, by quietly setting red candles and a bottle of Veuve Clicquot on a corner table while Chris used the rest room.

I knew Joseph had been planning a candle-and-champagne tete-a-tete for myself and Chris as his birthday present to me... "You should have told me you guys were coming..." Joseph lightly scolded. Chris was away for three weeks on business and had missed my birthday. Joseph was obviously excited to see him again. "We just came to say hi to you and Evan," I reasoned, overwhelmed yet again by Joseph's kindness and attention. The club was hopping that night, after all!

During particularly boozy nights while Chris was away, Joseph would kid that, "Chris just called up to ask me to look after you."

So there we were, Chris and myself, in the remaining minutes of Wednesday night, drinking champagne by candlelight, surrounded by out-of-towners gyrating to the seriously irresistible 80s dance tracks played by Evan.


***


Right before our little trip to Volume, Chris and I made a late-night visit to our good friend, top celebrity photographer Norm Yip. I needed a professional headshot for my audition at The Sands in Macau tomorrow. Unfortunately, all studious I visited would not do a rush headshot job. I would have had no other choice except to crawl into one of the sundry passport photo shops to ask them to produce an 8 x 10 print for me-- a thought I did not particularly relish, since a gig at The Sands is potentially worth a lot of money.

Enter Norm to the rescue, at 10PM (!!). He invites me and Chris to come over any time after dinner. Norm is steam ironing the gray backdrop himself when we get to his studio. Chilled bossa is smoothly spilling from a high-tech sound system as Norm putters about, setting up his equipment. We chit chat.

Half an hour later, we have a handful of good shots from the dozens that Norm has taken. Although there were a lot of fun, silly shots that showed personality, Norm and Chris voted on a capture that projected a sunny, youthful image.


Rabbi James Gannaban, 9 August 2007, (c) Norm Yip Photography


Norm enthused that I was easy to photograph-- much easier than the executives whose portraits he has to take for their company's annual reports. (Duh.)

Norm charged me a pittance-- only a fifth of his usual fee for a sitting, not to mention that mine was a rush job in the middle of the night. Of course Norm endlessly reminded me that he had to set aside a million other things to accommodate me. (What a sweetheart.) Hehe. And then Chris picked up the tab-- his birthday present to me, he said, since he had forgotten to pick up a present in Cambodia.

***


I'm surrounded by such loving beings. How did I get so lucky?

To channel Julie Andrews as Maria in The Sound of Music, "Somewhere in my youth or childhood, I must have done something good."

Thank you, God, for giving me great friends.


With Affection,
Astron

Aug. 6th, 2007

My Birthday Diary - Part 3 (The Junk Trip)

Part 1
Part 2

Hello, Friends!


Heart Failure, ye shall be called Speedo
Henry, Alex, Kai


Death by Gorgeousness. Boys with beautiful bodies luxuriously sunbathing like lizards on a rock. Except these golden bodies weren't really on a rock, but on the terrace of a 90-foot Sunseeker yacht. It was enough to give me fat-boy complex all over again if I weren't, in fact, too busy appreciating the buffet before me to recall childhood psychoses!

The 29th of July was the third and final leg of my marathon birthday week (birthweek?). Forty boys on a boat bound for South Bay on a glorious Sunday. You could sense the easy vibe, the comfort and enjoyment that's guaranteed in the company of good friends.

The boys were frisky, to be sure.


Legs weren't the only things that caught a-tangle


A basket of apples can only hope to look better
Billy, myself, Eric


"James, give me back my socks," my good friend, Michael, admonished loudly. My crotch was the running gag of the day. Quite a few shots like this were taken, it turned out. The boys noisily speculated if what was inside was real or padded. I would say, "It's the bathers that makes the package look big. Nothing special, so don't get excited,"-- which they would then take as an invitation to feel me up and check if, indeed, it was all me.

Boys will be boys.

***


A number of amusing anecdotes from the trip:

1. I was peeing in the toilet when I overheard two bankers arguing the comparative merits of working on debt and equities. Welcome to Hong Kong.

2. David, a Frenchman, was wearing a pair of blue bathers boldly printed with a yellow SPANK on the posterior. "Do you have one that says LICK?" I inquired.

3. Victor setting up a "sticky area" on the terrace for, well, the "sticky rice" guys (Asian guys who like only Asian guys, to the uninitiated). Victor playfully needled Ivan about having a gweilo for boyfriend. "You haven't tried a sister before. You might like it!" Victor suggested, which elicited a chorus of cheers from other Asian boys. "I like white guys!" Ivan replied with conviction.

***


At around 4PM, Michael gathered everyone to the terrace. Myself and Tommy, the other birthday boy, were surrounded by beautiful men lustily singing "Happy Birthday" as Michael revealed a round slab of chocolate cake.

A bottle of champagne was popped. Tommy and myself were bathed with Veuve Clicquot. My good friend, Tony, playfully lapped up the dribble on my tummy, but soon decided it wasn't worth it-- he tasted sweat and sunscreen there, too.


Let them eat cake!
Me serving little slices of chocolate cake from a table napkin.


The figure-conscious boys momentarily eschewed their dietary restrictions to sample the irresistible confection. It was baked by Remy, Michael and Jewell's helper, who has taken a shine to me. Thank you for not scrimping on the cocoa, Remy!

***



Visions of Love
Clockwise from top: Billy & Euguene, Ivan & Greg, Jewell & Michael


Like a sunflower turns its head to catch the brightest of rays, so do human beings bloom brightest when frolicking underneath sunshine. We let loose the most carefree laughter. We perform the silliest antics. We sigh the deepest, most contented of sighs.

And when the sky is blue and cloudless like this, our thoughts similiarly clarify to focus on but the most visceral elements of the moment. The briny scent of seawater carried by a benevolent breeze. The gentle rocking of the boat. The familiar warmth of a loved one, skin against skin. Waxing romantic might be rendered a cliche if not for the sincerity of the gesture and its silent acceptance-- a wordless squeeze, a meaningful look, a fleeting kiss that's no less electric than the first time.

"You are like a bee," a friend observed. Maybe so. It takes just the warm summer to gather this big a group of friends out on a trip like this. I wanted to make sure I touched base with as many friends as I could, specially ones I have not seen for a long time.

Or, since I'm feeling a compulsion to peel the superficial, I will admit that socializing is my coping mechanism for being single.

"I'm really an introvert, you know," I confided quietly. My friend was about to utter words of disbelief when, gobsmacked by the honesty of my own admission, I winked as though to show I was kidding.

He laughed.

All the Pozzos and Luckys* of the world may come and go to distract me with their circus act. And I might be momentarily entertained. Distracted, if you will. Truth is, I am done waiting for Godot. I just want the Vladimir to my Estragon. Only then can this busy bee stop and assume a true act of repose in life's tragicomedy-- sitting under a tree.

***


At sunset, Michael gathered everyone to the terrace for a group pictorial. The skipper did the honours so that everyone can be in the photograph.


The Asian Boys
Can you spot me? Rightmost, wearing baggy white shorts


"Where does Eric belong??" someone hollered, just as Michael called to gather the gweilos for the next shot. Eric is a dusky Latino. "He gets his own photo!!" a voice piped in reply, to our collective laughter.


The Gweilos
Plus Eric, standing second from left



29 July 2007, Class Photo @ South Bay
Count 'em, forty beautiful men

***


The amber glow of full moonshine dappled the ripples as we sailed back to Central. I felt like she was shining specially for Hong Kong that night. Resting in between the glittering silhouettes of Two IFC and The Center, she looked so big, so near-- like a ripe, golden fruit suspended in the mauve night sky.

The trip back was quiet.

***


The past year has been a tumultuous rollercoaster ride. Amazing highs as tall as Hong Kong's skyscrapers, coupled with rock-bottom lows. Thank goodness I can still anchor myself to the constancy of family, to nature's unfailingly ascendant beauty, and to the love of good friends.

Thanks to Ben and Trish for seeing me through my sudden health debacle. Thanks to Noel and Roy for being the big brothers I never had. Thanks to Joseph and Evan for hosting the biggest birthday splash of my life. Thanks to Tony, who took care of raggedy me. Thanks to Michael, Jewell and Eugene for organizing the junk trip. Thanks to Remy, who baked the cake. And thanks to all of you who wished me well.

Birthdays are celebrated because of friends like you.



With Affection,
Astron



Post-It

No, I can't swim.



*Characters from the seminal Absurdist masterpiece, Waiting For Godot, by Samuel Beckett.
-Thanks to Michael and Jewell for the beautiful photos

Jul. 30th, 2007

My Birthday Diary - Part 2 (The Red Party)

Hello, Friends!

I was just supposed to have a quiet asalto. But barely a week before my birthday, Volume's Joseph suggested I invite my friends over for good ole' drinkin' and dancin'.

"I'll serve some spring rolls and sushi,"
he offerred. "I can't promise anything coz I'll be doing the Svedka event the next night, but I might be here to spin for you..." teased Evan, a.k.a. DJ Stonedog.

It was my good friend, Rye (of the popular blog, Can't You Read?, and of the wacky podcast, The Dan & Rye Show), who came up with the idea of a Red Party.

"Red *is* auspicious," I agreed.

"But don't wear red, so *you* stand out," Rye punctuated with a fluorish.

And so it was. Before the night ended, the wheels were turning for a big Red Party on the 24th of July hosted by one of Hong Kong's banner nightspots for boys.

***



Look who came to greet me a Happy Birthday-- Buddy & Lucy, Volume's mascots!


Clockwise from Top-Left: (1) With my confidante, hospitality guru and philanthropist Andrew Jones; (2) With Guerlain's Todd Hartwell-- word after the party was Todd charmed the guests off their socks! (3) With sexy design maven Addy Ngo (left) and ace engineer Anthony Chan (right). Anthony has guided me through the crazy, fickle world of the HK scene from the very beginning, and so I affectionately call him "Uncle"; (4) With sales exec Peter Helis, who broke many hearts that night...


Volume was decked in glorious red. The guests wore red. The drink of the night--Tainted Love, a champagne-based cocktail created by Santosh, Volume's master barman--was red. Even the condoms in the condom trays were sorted so only the red ones were left-- kinda like serving just red M&M's. And don't forget my "cake," an upright bratwurst wrapped in a red condom with two round buns on each side representing--what else?--a giant erection.

***


To honor my great friends who came to help me celebrate, I present The Red Party Awards!


Best in Red: Irrepressible Firecracker from Down Under Jewell Chua shows us what's indeed down under; Italian wild child Melody Davi reveals her inner feelings


Runners-up: Uncle Roger (in a Hawaiian shirt) & Momma Tony (in koi fish-pattern sleeveless shirt) gifted me with blown-up photos of myself and a DVD of Floatilla 2007. I was, well, blown away. They returned early to Hong Kong from their holiday in tropical Haikou just for my birthday. They are my favorite couple. Thanks, guys!


Too Cool For Red: (From L-R) Nick, Pierre, Jay and Avalo. I was too happy to see their handsome faces, it didn't matter that they weren't wearing the night's motif.


Volume installed a new pole on the dancefloor only a few hours before the party and many of us gave it a whirl. It was a cakewalk for the ladies.


Best Pole Dancers: Myrene gives us her impression of a Fireman's Descent, while Kerryn lets us know, in unequivocal terms, how she feels. Kerryn took a lot of amazing photos of the party. Thank you!

***


The party was rated GP, for the most part... But when DJ Stonedog started spinning at midnight, well...


Rye was obviously grateful...


...and the shirts came off.


DJ Stonedog later observated that Volume has never been busier (or crazier, no doubt) on a Tuesday night.

***


A couple of priceless anecdotes that night:

1. There was an elderly gentleman whom nobody knew, and who seemed happy enough to nurse his drink by himself. I came by to introduce myself and to say hello. He was friendly. He greeted me a Happy Birthday. He left soon after, but returned in just a short while-- wearing RED!

2. The entire club sang a big Happy Birthday while Melody beatboxed.

***


The party had a great mix of locals and expats, Asians and Caucasians, the young and the young-at-heart, singles and couples. I am a great fan of Love. Seeing Jade & Anton, Erin & Alex, Michael & Jewell, Addy & Matt, Uncle Roger & Momma Tony, Greg & Ivan, and of course Joseph & Evan reaffirmed my belief in the largeness of the human heart. And the presence of my fabulous single friends (my bestfriend Trish Canilao and friend, sexy Singaporean-about-town Sitaren Sita, celeb photographer Norm Yip, events queen Michael Valenciano, hottie web designer Kenny Wan, music exec Eugene Low, hotshot product manager Billy Mak [still twinky!], Wayne, Nathan, Glyn, Kelly, Nelson, Andrew, Iroy, Marah, Sara, Adrienne, Miro, Wendell et cetera!) made sure that I did not die of Couple Envy on my birthday! Heeh!


A big THANK YOU to my good friend, Tony Licon, webmaster of OutInHK and gay Hong Kong society's Queen Bee, for helping me get the word out on the party. He would later haul me off my rubbery feet to his beautiful flat in the Midlevels, making me take some aspirin and apple juice to beat a monster hangover away.



My heartfelt thanks my good friends, Volume's power couple, Joseph and Evan. Words are not enough, guys. Thanks also to Santosh who made sure no glass went empty.


And of course to my friends who came-- it was truly a Happy Birthday because of your presence. Turning a year older is not always a reason to celebrate. In fact, it sometimes fills me with melancholy and doubt. "Do I matter?" With wonderful friends like you, the answer is a comforting, heartwarming "Yes."

Among all of you-- thank you for years of companionship. Life could be miserable. But it can also be an amazing joyride when shared with special people.


With Affection,
Astron

Jul. 25th, 2007

My Birthday Diary - Part 1 (Asalto)

Hello, Friends!


I had a sickee episode at work the day before my birthday. Having been born eight weeks premature, I don't have the strongest of constitutions. This time, it was tummy trouble. I took some Pepto-Bismol, but every pink bit of it came spewing as I repeatedly heaved over the sink. I would drink to rehydrate, but my system would reject even water within two minutes. I was shaking; I didn't know which posture to get into to ease the pain.

My manager called 999 (HK's emergency) and within 20 minutes, help came. It was all so theatrical-- sprightly paramedics, stretcher, worried friends, an ambulance. The works.

Ben, a colleague, came with me.

***


We got to the Princess Margaret Hospital in Mei Foo at around noon. I had to wait three hours at the Accidents & Emergency ward till a doctor saw me, since my case was classified as just semi-urgent. I couldn't complain. Although I had vomited a grand total of seven times before a doctor finally got to me, there were others who were in more serious need of attention-- a man whose foot got shot and a boy who was practically holding his intestines in a plastic bag. I shrank in my wheelchair and retreated into the warm embrace of the thick, blue, hospital-issue blanket that Ben had procured.

***


"Gastroenteritis," the doctor pronounced. He gave me two intramuscular injections. I was instructed to wait for another hour for the meds to take effect, afterwhich my condition would be reexamined.

By this time, Ben had gone back to work and another colleague (and one of my closest friends), Trish, had come by.

During that hour-long wait period, I asked to be wheeled out to the pedestrian walkway where it was warmer and more cheerful. I napped under the late afternoon sunshine. Trish kept watch.

***


I was released at 5PM.

Before nightfall, I was in Trish's modish flat in Caribbean Coast. It was an all-white, two-bedroom affair with showroom-evocative lighting and furniture. I prompty collapsed on her heavenly bed, where I drifted in and out of sleep until 10PM.

It was the eve of my birthday. I had an entire night planned around it. Two of my best buds, Roy and Noel, were going to host an intimate gathering for me. I was bringing over some board games. I wanted my good friends and I to just be kids. We were gonna have pizza and beer. Everyone was gonna greet me a Happy Birthday at the strike of midnight... That was the plan.

Instead, I was on Trish's bed, sick.

***


At 10PM, the doorbell buzzed.

It was Roy and Noel, bearing food and friends.

They had brought the party to me.

***


I like to think that it's the love of true friends rather than meds that made me recover speedily.

It was Noel, who always knows the first thing to do when I'm sick.

It was Ben, who would wordlessly replace my barf bag and gently secure the blanket around me while I shivered in A&E.

It was Trish, who brought me home and babied me, making sure I took my meds on sked, working the phone with friends while I slept, gracefully executing a Plan B birthday gathering.

It was Roy, who made his signature puttanesca with much love.

It was Franz, Milai, Melody, Myrene and Marah who lustily sang Happy Birthday as the cake was brought out close to midnight.



Paper plates, soda cans, table wine. And all the love in the world. How did I get so lucky?



Whenever someone asked what I wanted for my birthday, I replied: Nothing. I can honestly say I have everything I could possibly need.



With Affection,
Astron

Jul. 22nd, 2007

Discoveries at Hemingway's by the Bay

Hello, Friends!

Sometimes, because of the manic pace with which we conduct our lives, we tend to take for granted those around us-- our colleagues. Often, personalities become entangled in the politics of the workplace. Many of us get obsessed with getting the most out of the smallest possible effort-- quicker promotions, bigger paychecks, preferential days off and holidays, etc. Even the simple status of being employed can be a cause for competition among people who would otherwise be friends. It pits us against each other, specially in the fickle world of entertainment.

When you are on an overseas contract (like myself), however, the first friends you make are your colleagues. And with the fleeting nature of entertainment contracts, staying friends with them is practically a matter of survival. Since we, ourselves, are transient, we ache to ground ourselves in something familiar amidst the unfamiliar. That's why we are always trying to find something we like to do in common-- watch movies, get a tan, go shopping, work out...

Or drink.


Margarita Madness: Melody Davi, Sarah Alexander, Jade McFadden, Anthony Pura and myself. Photo taken by Trish Canilao


***



The photo above was taken at Hemingway's by the Bay at the Water Margin in Discovery Bay.

We ordered three rounds straight away to take advantage of Happy Hour prices.

The menu boasted of fresh-from-the-grill meat and seafood prepared Caribbean-style, as well as the largest collection (!!!) of rums in Asia.

We didn't get to start on our meal all at the same time because some orders took longer to be brought to our table. Same with the drinks. The wait staff, although friendly, was obviously stretched thin. We had trouble getting any service. There was only one barman servicing the entire restaurant, all tables of which were occupied.

(Since Hemingway's was packed, I could only deduce that there is great demand for alfresco dining in polluted Hong Kong. And Discovery Bay, being a community that prohibits most motor vehicles from plying its narrow, inclined streets, is the perfect setting for the waterfront gastronomic complex that is Water Margin. )

To be fair, I couldn't complain about the quality of the drinks or the freshness of the food. But if I get cranky waiting for my food and drink to arrive, it affects my total dining experience. Fortunately, my 8oz beef burger was REALLY tender and flavourful; it made me forget all about the delay in food delivery. Trish's salmon was a picture of pink perfection. Anthony was licking his fingers clean of the mouthwatering sauce that coated his grilled tiger prawns.

Plus, of course, watching the fireworks across the bay and the glittering reflections of skyscrapers on the water has a calming effect that made our demand for instant gratification melt away.

It's okay to wait.

***



We talked about lives and loves-- our histories.

We talked about sex-- the ladies had plenty to say about hair down there.

We talked about workplace irritants-- overweight dancing partners, a hippie attitude towards personal hygiene, lazy colleagues.

We ended up talking, getting angry, laughing until midnight. We left with reluctance, knowing we were having such a great time, but also realizing that we needed to be in the last buses or trains to home.

***


Friendships created in these circumstances can be tenuous. Because after six months, one year, three years, we will all part ways. Such is the nature of entertainment contracts. We are gypsies who go where the music beats loudest for us. And when we say goodbye, we do so with promises of "I'll keep in touch through e-mail," "I'll visit you soon," or "I'll host you when you come to my city." We need to believe that we are creating meaningful ties-- that fraternity can be fostered within such limited time and space-- because only then do isolated pockets of experience seem to come together to create a grounded existence.

Why allow life to be a pain when it can be enjoyable?

Here's to good friendship! Cheers!



With Affection,
Astron

Jul. 13th, 2007

Happy Hour

Man 1: It's great to have you back. I had a terrible weekend. Since we started hanging out, my standards have gone up. I don't like hanging out with other guys any more... (smiles)

Man 2: Why me? You know I'm a difficult target... (kneads Man 1's hands)

Man 1: Do you feel like I'm trying to pin you down?


BEAT


Man 2: Sometimes... yes. Sometimes, no.

Man 1: I'm not. Everything is clear to me.

 

BEAT 

 

Man 2: Do you want another drink?

Man 1: Do you?

Man 2: What do you wanna do? We could stay or we could go.

Man 1: I don't know...

 

BEAT

 

Man 2: Let's get something to eat.

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